From the Mother’s Wound to the Perfect Love of God

Many people grew up feeling that they were never enough. Their mother loved them, but expected something different — to be quieter, stronger, more obedient, or more like her. That constant pressure left an invisible wound that still whispers: “I need to change to be loved.”

According to the National Institute of Mental Health (2023), between 40% and 50% of people experienced emotional adversity in childhood. And The Guardian (2025) reports that 1 in 4 suffered rejection or verbal criticism, increasing their risk of anxiety or depression by 64% in adulthood.

When love feels conditional, a child learns to hide who they are. But God teaches a different kind of love — one that doesn’t demand perfection, but brings healing and acceptance. His love doesn’t shift with behavior; it embraces, restores, and affirms the value of every wounded heart.

“Though my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will receive me.” — Psalm 27:10

If you’ve ever felt like you’re not enough, turn to God. He will show you that your mother was wrong, because to Him, you are loved just as you are.

Prayer:

Lord, heal those who grew up under impossible expectations.
Let them feel that they don’t need to change to be loved, because You accepted them from the beginning. And guide mothers to raise their children with love and empathy. May every family reflect Your unconditional love.
Amen.